Writing....A Lonely Occupation

Let me start this post by saying that I love writing. Always have. And that love has grown as I have learned more about the art of crafting words together. But I’ve got to be honest.

The writing world is a lonely world.

Most of the time, to get work done, a writer has to separate themselves from the people around them. That means missing out on activities, staying up or getting up early when the others are asleep, and hiding in a room to get anything done. Other writers may be more successful at getting more juice out of their squeeze, but I can’t concentrate if my kids or husband are in the same room. I have learned, the more you write, the more you improve. If I want to improve, I have to give up more time.

Time that is spent alone.

That means I spend a chunk of my day separating myself from my family. Writing, then editing, then rewriting, and then virtually crunching that attempt up like a piece of paper and starting over. Occasionally I turn to other writers for feedback and crave the attention they give, even when their words are harsh, critical, and about my writing. But oh, when someone mentions something good about my writing, it is like a bloodline.

A compliment really goes a long way.

Someone commented on own of my blogs the other day, and her thought has stayed with me ever since. It made me think of my chosen career as a teacher, a mom, and a writer. It seems every career has their unappreciated moments and a kind word goes a long way in helping someone along.

So for future reference, I wanted to build a list of ideas that readers and writers could do to serve each other in this stand-alone world we try to survive in.

1. Attend conferences– Meet other authors, connect with people who are like-minded. It is a great way to build on your skills, too, but who really only goes for that? Okay, just kidding, most of us do, but the connecting part is also important.
2. Share your writing, even if you think you are not good enough. It may touch someone, and that will mean the effort and lonely time away was worth it. Especially share with your loved ones around you. They should already have a vested interest, but if they don’t it’s time for them to get on board.
3. Review others’ writing– This is a big one. We learn from other writing. If you don’t believe me, read my last post about beta-reading. This also comes in the form of reading others published writing- blogs, novels, articles. Even better, leave a review, a comment, or a message with that writer if you learned something valuable from their writing.
4. Sign up for online and in-person writing groups. Their feedback is invaluable, and connecting with other people on a consistent basis is essential in receiving encouragement that you’re on the right track.
5. Serve yourself by stepping away. Let’s be honest- the continual grind of the author life is taxing at times. The continual rejection, frustration of starting over, or the occasional moments when we try to compare ourselves to someone better takes a toll if we do not remember to step away and take some R&R.

I’m sure there is more I could have added to this list, but 5 seemed like a magical number today. Readers and writers, feel free to share what you do to serve in the writing world to make life a little less lonely. Thank you for taking time to read this. If you made it this far, it means I did something right.